25) I was a victim of sexual assault when I was a 6 at the hands of an older cousin. I told my at-the-time-boyfriend, who I truly trusted at the moment. I found out that he was cheating on me with his ex and she didn’t know that we were together. I told her that he was lying to both of us, but she in return hated me and not him. He told her about the assault as a way to get her to think that I was crazy and told her about a cutting problem a few years ago. Told her as a twisted way to gain her trust and/or to get her to think I was crazy and not believe anything I said. Now she is spreading this to everyone in my school. What do I do? Everyone keeps on staring at me.

I am sorry that you had to go through such a terrible experience. It disgusts me that your peers don’t see how serious of an ordeal this is.

First, stick close to your real friends. They will be the ones to back you up, and make you feel better if people are talking about you.

Second, the best way to solve an issue is to face it. Don’t be afraid to confront the rumors, attack them, shoot them down and justify yourself. You are in every position to have your voice be heard. People will listen.

Third, don’t overreact. I know this sounds crazy, and you have every right to overreact, but making a scene or turning it into a bigger issue is giving the ones who are spreading the rumors the benefit of the doubt and that is one thing you don’t want to do. You don’t want them to think they succeeded in letting the rumors hurt you, even if they did, you need to show them that you are a strong person and you’re not going to let this bring you down.

I believe you can make it through this, good luck :]

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24) There’s this guy I really like, but we’re not that close. How do I get close to him?

Easy. Talk to him!

Professional studies have shown that the best way to approach someone is not with a catchy pick up line, but just by saying “Hi!”.

Asking him questions about his likes, dislikes, life, etc. are also really good ways to carry a conversation with him and learn some more about him. The more and better conversations you have with him, the closer you will get. You can even share a little bit of yourself with him as well, so he’ll feel more comfortable sharing with you.

Texting him, talking to him on Facebook or AIM, or maybe even calling or video chatting when you two aren’t around each other are definite signs to give him the heads up that you’re interested.

Becoming friends is a great way to get close to him, and also the first step to turning him into a boyfriend. Good luck :]

16) I spend so much time with my friend and treat her like my best friend but she still doesn’t tell me the Important Stuff. How do I get her to trust me?

Trust is a touchy subject and it’s harder for some to open up and trust people with their personal lives than it is for others. Your friend may just not be the type of person to talk about things like that, and this will have to be something in your friendship you will just need to accept.

Don’t stop telling her things just because she isn’t telling back. The more you tell her, then more comfortable she’ll feel telling you.

You can also open up the topic by asking her specific questions about her life such as; school drama, boyfriends, parents, etc.

15) all i want to say. is that, i feel regret for leaving my ex. he was great, if i didnt make such a stupid mistake i would still have him. and now i just reminisce on the old memories we had. now we’re not even friends, not like we used to be. all because i started a fight and now i feel as if he doesnt want to look at me. i’d like to say sorry. but then again i dont, because he wrote hurtful things to me. should i just stay neutral and leave it as it is. because i have no clue on what to do next. =(

I believe that the only reason why you are still hanging onto your ex-boyfriend is because you have yet to meet a new boy who is just as, or even more amazing.

As much as you don’t want to, I would keep things as they are. Trying to reconnect after an ugly breakup is one of the most emotionally draining processes and usually does not get you the results you want.

Chances are, he’s moved on, and you should too. So, go out there and mix and mingle, make new friends, and flirt it up. Don’t stay stuck on this one guy. Just keep moving forward and being fabulous :]